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Monday, December 8, 2008
Monday, December 1, 2008
Top 30 Signs You Are Addicted to Jiu-Jitsu...
Top 30 Signs You're Addicted to Jiu Jitsu
You know you're addicted if...
1. On your way home after Jiu Jitsu class you always stop to go shopping so you can show off your kimono and belt.
2. All of your enemies "gotta big mouth!"
3. You begin pronouncing the word Jiu-Jitsu (jew-jit-su) as "zhuzhitsu."
4. You are constantly thinking up a new setup or move that no one has discovered just so you "can put your name on it."
5. When in bed with your wife, husband, girlfriend, or boyfriend you are doing jiu-jitsu reversals to maneuver him/her into the position you want.
6. When talking with friends, bosses, or relatives you eye them up and down to see which would be easier to get on them: the armbar or the choke.
7. You are constantly staring at other people's ears while at bars and clubs to see who is a grappler.
8. ONLY when you are explaining a move to a friend do you develop a SLIGHT Brazilian accent.
9. Waiters, waitresses, and the cable guy are all now "my friend, my friend."
10. When you turn over in bed at night you are posting your foot and sliding your hips to turn instead of just rolling over.
11. You spend hours on end looking at BJJ sites trying to think of things you can say.
12. You try to get grandma to do a footlock on you.
13. When your family members begin to lose feeling in their joints.
14. Last night you dreamt that Royce Gracie put you in an armbar, and when you woke up your arm was caught between your desk and the edge of your bed.
15. When asked how BJJ deals with multiple attackers, you say "I don't know, I've never found more than one person dumb enough to try."
16. You find it fun putting house pets (e.g. dogs and cats) into locks, chokes, and holds.
17. When you start wanting to test your BJJ skills against big guys at bars and clubs.
18. It becomes increasingly difficult to say "so your a black belt in Tae kwon do-- that very impressive," with a straight face.
19. You catch yourself attempting to pass your girlfriend's/boyfriend's guard.
20. You talk in broken English, even though you're a college graduate.
21. You practice chokes on anyone that turns his/her back to you.
22. When someone tries to give you a hug you immediately drop into base and execute a hip throw.
23. When your girlfriend/boyfriend comes over and you greet her/him with an open guard instead of a hug.
24. When you find yourself twisting and mangling your ears trying to get the cauliflower to look cool.
25. You start teaching your 10-month-old baby the mount, the side mount, and the guard.
26. When breaking joints becomes an everyday thing.
27. When nobody is around, you start doing submissions to your pillow.
28. Your Gi has more patches on it than a whole company of Girl Scout uniforms.
29. During the winter you wear your Gi top around the house instead of a sweater or turning on the heat.
30. You're trying to get your friends to the BJJ dojo just to show them what a great Lion-Killer you have.
You know you're addicted if...
1. On your way home after Jiu Jitsu class you always stop to go shopping so you can show off your kimono and belt.
2. All of your enemies "gotta big mouth!"
3. You begin pronouncing the word Jiu-Jitsu (jew-jit-su) as "zhuzhitsu."
4. You are constantly thinking up a new setup or move that no one has discovered just so you "can put your name on it."
5. When in bed with your wife, husband, girlfriend, or boyfriend you are doing jiu-jitsu reversals to maneuver him/her into the position you want.
6. When talking with friends, bosses, or relatives you eye them up and down to see which would be easier to get on them: the armbar or the choke.
7. You are constantly staring at other people's ears while at bars and clubs to see who is a grappler.
8. ONLY when you are explaining a move to a friend do you develop a SLIGHT Brazilian accent.
9. Waiters, waitresses, and the cable guy are all now "my friend, my friend."
10. When you turn over in bed at night you are posting your foot and sliding your hips to turn instead of just rolling over.
11. You spend hours on end looking at BJJ sites trying to think of things you can say.
12. You try to get grandma to do a footlock on you.
13. When your family members begin to lose feeling in their joints.
14. Last night you dreamt that Royce Gracie put you in an armbar, and when you woke up your arm was caught between your desk and the edge of your bed.
15. When asked how BJJ deals with multiple attackers, you say "I don't know, I've never found more than one person dumb enough to try."
16. You find it fun putting house pets (e.g. dogs and cats) into locks, chokes, and holds.
17. When you start wanting to test your BJJ skills against big guys at bars and clubs.
18. It becomes increasingly difficult to say "so your a black belt in Tae kwon do-- that very impressive," with a straight face.
19. You catch yourself attempting to pass your girlfriend's/boyfriend's guard.
20. You talk in broken English, even though you're a college graduate.
21. You practice chokes on anyone that turns his/her back to you.
22. When someone tries to give you a hug you immediately drop into base and execute a hip throw.
23. When your girlfriend/boyfriend comes over and you greet her/him with an open guard instead of a hug.
24. When you find yourself twisting and mangling your ears trying to get the cauliflower to look cool.
25. You start teaching your 10-month-old baby the mount, the side mount, and the guard.
26. When breaking joints becomes an everyday thing.
27. When nobody is around, you start doing submissions to your pillow.
28. Your Gi has more patches on it than a whole company of Girl Scout uniforms.
29. During the winter you wear your Gi top around the house instead of a sweater or turning on the heat.
30. You're trying to get your friends to the BJJ dojo just to show them what a great Lion-Killer you have.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Monday, August 25, 2008
Royal Bliss
Last week I was able to see one of my favorite bands, Royal Bliss, two nights in a row. My friend Bryce and I went down and saw them Wednesday night and up in Lakewood on Thursday. They put on a great show. Their drummer, Jake, put us on the list the 2nd night. Such a great show.
Friday, August 8, 2008
Monday, June 9, 2008
Aging
I have only one more week in my 20's. The decade of my youth. I had so many things to do, places to go. What did I accomplish? Have I done enough to call it a success? Am I old? Am I on track to get where I'm going?
These are thoughts and questions I have had running through my head the last couple of weeks as I approach the end of my 20's and anticipate the start of my 30's. I remember when my dad had his 30th birthday and I remember thinking he must be old. Now, conveniently, it doesn't seem so old. I know that age is all relative to the person, but it does have some significance.
Yesterday I taught the 16 year old Sunday School Class at church. I feel like I am just a few years removed from them. We had a good lesson discussing Alma the Younger and the sons of Mosiah. I took a different approach on the lesson though. We related it to peer pressure and what types of influences they must have faced to choose to act the way they did. I enjoyed the lesson and tried to impress upon them the fact that regardless of where they are in life, the temptations and choices will never end. I see them every day, big and small.
These are thoughts and questions I have had running through my head the last couple of weeks as I approach the end of my 20's and anticipate the start of my 30's. I remember when my dad had his 30th birthday and I remember thinking he must be old. Now, conveniently, it doesn't seem so old. I know that age is all relative to the person, but it does have some significance.
Yesterday I taught the 16 year old Sunday School Class at church. I feel like I am just a few years removed from them. We had a good lesson discussing Alma the Younger and the sons of Mosiah. I took a different approach on the lesson though. We related it to peer pressure and what types of influences they must have faced to choose to act the way they did. I enjoyed the lesson and tried to impress upon them the fact that regardless of where they are in life, the temptations and choices will never end. I see them every day, big and small.
Monday, May 26, 2008
The Reason
I have been asked and continue to be asked why I'm not going to the Bahamas this summer with my wife and her family. I'm not sure how to answer it in a way that satisfies anyone.
Originally it was more a financial thing, knowing we need the money to spend on the house we bought last November. Janna really wanted to go, so of course I'm not going to hold her back. I on the other hand, will be home with the boys. Of course my time would be best spent at home working on the house, but of course, having 3 boys to care for will be only a road block to getting anything done. How Janna does it, I will never know. I guess years of practice will build up your stamina. So instead of rushing back to Denver, I will stay an extra week in Idaho.
I knew I would have to use the week to care for them or try and find a sitter for them while I am at work, so I opted to take the week off. Hopefully it will be a little easier having family around. Either way I will be a single father that week. Rusty will be turning 3 that week as well, he loves his birthday so much I would hate to miss it. I love my boys so much despite having to be away from home so much during the day. They want nothing more than to wrestle and play catch and help me do anything. It will be nice to be able to show them where I was a little boy and take them to places that were part of my childhood. Since moving to Colorado we haven't been back up to Idaho, so being able to spend a couple of weeks there will be a treat.
The hardest part about living here isn't the place, it's the distance. We have no family here. Both of our parents live about 1000 miles away. We have a lot of family in Utah, but they are about 600 miles from here, and now with the gas prices doubling in the last year or so, it's not as cheap as it used to be. That is disappointing because we really wanted to get there more this year to see family.
I don't know if I have a good answer for not going. I don't know if this really was an answer as much as a thought process. I actually want to go, I love my inlaws and have so much fun with them and all of Janna's siblings and their spouses. We had one of the best trips of my life a few years ago to Maui. I also love the beach. However, this time I guess there are just a few other things that I need to do.
Originally it was more a financial thing, knowing we need the money to spend on the house we bought last November. Janna really wanted to go, so of course I'm not going to hold her back. I on the other hand, will be home with the boys. Of course my time would be best spent at home working on the house, but of course, having 3 boys to care for will be only a road block to getting anything done. How Janna does it, I will never know. I guess years of practice will build up your stamina. So instead of rushing back to Denver, I will stay an extra week in Idaho.
I knew I would have to use the week to care for them or try and find a sitter for them while I am at work, so I opted to take the week off. Hopefully it will be a little easier having family around. Either way I will be a single father that week. Rusty will be turning 3 that week as well, he loves his birthday so much I would hate to miss it. I love my boys so much despite having to be away from home so much during the day. They want nothing more than to wrestle and play catch and help me do anything. It will be nice to be able to show them where I was a little boy and take them to places that were part of my childhood. Since moving to Colorado we haven't been back up to Idaho, so being able to spend a couple of weeks there will be a treat.
The hardest part about living here isn't the place, it's the distance. We have no family here. Both of our parents live about 1000 miles away. We have a lot of family in Utah, but they are about 600 miles from here, and now with the gas prices doubling in the last year or so, it's not as cheap as it used to be. That is disappointing because we really wanted to get there more this year to see family.
I don't know if I have a good answer for not going. I don't know if this really was an answer as much as a thought process. I actually want to go, I love my inlaws and have so much fun with them and all of Janna's siblings and their spouses. We had one of the best trips of my life a few years ago to Maui. I also love the beach. However, this time I guess there are just a few other things that I need to do.
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Who Said Money Can't Buy Happiness?
Dwight: Jim, Jim, Jim. Jim, Jim, Jim, Jim, Jim, Jim, Jim.
Jim: Oh, hey, Dwight.
Dwight: : I’m going to be your new boss. It’s my greatest dream come true. Welcome to the Hotel Hell. Check-in time is now. Check-out time is never.
Jim: Does my room have cable?
Dwight: No. And the sheets are made of fire!
Jim: Can I change rooms?
Dwight: Sorry, we’re all booked up. Hell convention in town.
Jim: Can I have a late check-out?
Dwight: I’ll have to talk to the manager.
Jim: You’re not the manager? Even in your own fantasy?
Dwight: I’m the owner. The co-owner. With Satan.
Jim: Okay, just so I understand it. In your wildest fantasy, you are in hell. And you are co-running a bed and breakfast with the devil.
Dwight: Yeah, but I haven’t told you my salary yet.
Jim: Go. Dwight: $80,000 a year.
Jim: Oh, hey, Dwight.
Dwight: : I’m going to be your new boss. It’s my greatest dream come true. Welcome to the Hotel Hell. Check-in time is now. Check-out time is never.
Jim: Does my room have cable?
Dwight: No. And the sheets are made of fire!
Jim: Can I change rooms?
Dwight: Sorry, we’re all booked up. Hell convention in town.
Jim: Can I have a late check-out?
Dwight: I’ll have to talk to the manager.
Jim: You’re not the manager? Even in your own fantasy?
Dwight: I’m the owner. The co-owner. With Satan.
Jim: Okay, just so I understand it. In your wildest fantasy, you are in hell. And you are co-running a bed and breakfast with the devil.
Dwight: Yeah, but I haven’t told you my salary yet.
Jim: Go. Dwight: $80,000 a year.
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Feeling Lucky?
I've got an ongoing conversation in my head that revolves around LUCK. Often I have people misspell my name LUKE as LUCK. Not a bad thing I guess. Since my legal name is Lucas and I go by Luke, people mix the two and get Luck. For whatever reason, it must rub off on me because I seem to have it. Janna says that I am the luckiest person she knows. I have mentioned before that I have streaks of luck here and there (on our family blog). This weekend was no different. After helping a friend move some things around at his place, Rusty and I stopped by a furniture store to see if a couch we liked was still there. It had been on clearance for a few weeks b/c it was a floor model. They wouldn't go any lower than $350 so they said, yet as I walked up they were in the act of marking the price down an additional $100. When it was all said and done I was able to buy it for 1/2 of what we planned on spending for a new couch. Luck, maybe. Good timing, probably. Persistence, mostly.
Saturday afternoon we went bowling with Janna's dad Wayne, who was visiting. We had about 1/2 hour left when they announced it was Game Show night and adults could sign up. I hesitated at first, then decided to try it knowing our time was short. I knew that I would only have a shot to go up with the first group if at all. Sure enough, whose name was called first, mine. I went up with the first group of 4 people. It was Price is Right style, we bid on a home appliance. We all overbid, the girl after me went a dollar higher, screwing my chances. Too bad girl, we overbid. 2nd time around, you know it.
I was within $100 too and they decided that was worth an extra prize and they gave me a jacket. Not just any jacket, a Seattle Seahawks jacket. Remember, I'm in Denver-Broncos country, and they come out with a Seahawks jacket. I was probably the only one in the place who is a Seattle fan, and they didn't know it. The game I played was Card-Shark. They give you 7 cards and you have to guess if the next one is higher or lower. I was able to swap out one card if I didn't like it during the game which I did on the 4th card. It was an 8 and the new one was an Ace. 7 cards later I was a winner and won us a bunch of free pizza.
I finished the game in time to go finish my last game of bowling and get going. Luck, maybe. Timing, probably.
I've often had my name drawn in raffles and drawings. I won my first ipod in a free drawing at RCWilley. Earlier this year I got a pair of tickets to Maroon 5 handed to me and didn't even have to enter the drawing. Two weeks ago I had 2nd row tickets to an NHL game given to me and I'd never even been to a hockey game in my life. Luck, maybe. Timing, probably.
I don't know if I'm lucky or not, but I do know that usually what goes around, comes back around. I have tried to be a giver most of my life and help out others as much as I can, and I hope that has something to do with it. Call it Karma, the Secret, Power of Positive Thinking, connections, whatever. I call it a blessing. I do believe that positive thinking is good for the mind and body and that it's always easier to be around a positive person. Thus, I try to reflect it in my own life and the results follow suit. It's not to say that I am 100% positive all day, but hopefully more than your average grumpy old man.
Saturday afternoon we went bowling with Janna's dad Wayne, who was visiting. We had about 1/2 hour left when they announced it was Game Show night and adults could sign up. I hesitated at first, then decided to try it knowing our time was short. I knew that I would only have a shot to go up with the first group if at all. Sure enough, whose name was called first, mine. I went up with the first group of 4 people. It was Price is Right style, we bid on a home appliance. We all overbid, the girl after me went a dollar higher, screwing my chances. Too bad girl, we overbid. 2nd time around, you know it.
I was within $100 too and they decided that was worth an extra prize and they gave me a jacket. Not just any jacket, a Seattle Seahawks jacket. Remember, I'm in Denver-Broncos country, and they come out with a Seahawks jacket. I was probably the only one in the place who is a Seattle fan, and they didn't know it. The game I played was Card-Shark. They give you 7 cards and you have to guess if the next one is higher or lower. I was able to swap out one card if I didn't like it during the game which I did on the 4th card. It was an 8 and the new one was an Ace. 7 cards later I was a winner and won us a bunch of free pizza.
I finished the game in time to go finish my last game of bowling and get going. Luck, maybe. Timing, probably.
I've often had my name drawn in raffles and drawings. I won my first ipod in a free drawing at RCWilley. Earlier this year I got a pair of tickets to Maroon 5 handed to me and didn't even have to enter the drawing. Two weeks ago I had 2nd row tickets to an NHL game given to me and I'd never even been to a hockey game in my life. Luck, maybe. Timing, probably.
I don't know if I'm lucky or not, but I do know that usually what goes around, comes back around. I have tried to be a giver most of my life and help out others as much as I can, and I hope that has something to do with it. Call it Karma, the Secret, Power of Positive Thinking, connections, whatever. I call it a blessing. I do believe that positive thinking is good for the mind and body and that it's always easier to be around a positive person. Thus, I try to reflect it in my own life and the results follow suit. It's not to say that I am 100% positive all day, but hopefully more than your average grumpy old man.
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Better than Mace
I'm not a big fan of forwarded emails, especially when I've seen them a few dozen times already, but this one was certainly worth my time. Janna has been concerned about taking walks and/or excercising in the neighborhood early in the morning or late at night, I think this might be a good solution to her concerns. I would like to get a couple of them actually.
Monday, April 14, 2008
Spring is Here
Last week I finished up my work at the CIS project. We had a couple of pours mixed in with a few poor weather days. It went from 60 and sunshine on Monday to blizzard-like conditions on Thursday which carried into Friday and Saturday. Sunday morning we woke up and it was back up into decent weather again with some wind.
Thursday I had a 4 hour training learning how to do onscreen takeoffs (actually a great tool) and then went back to the job and packed up. Friday morning I had another training at the area office and then moved my things into the area office. I am scheduled to be here until May 12. I hope that is accurate.
Last night we went on a walk with the boys down to one of the parks in the neighborhood. On our way back I took the double stroller with the boy in it and we went off-roading. They all thought it was so fun to go up and over everything and even Van was laughing hysterically. It was so important to them that we beat mommy home. Everything is a race for them. Lately one of their favorite things to do is play a game they call "Baby chase" where they run around the main floor and Janna tries to catch them. She is a good sport and plays over and over.
I am getting excited for the summer. I have all the days off that I needed to get for our trips to Newport Beach, CA and Coeur D' Alene, ID. It can't come soon enough. Of course, then it flies by and we are back to wishing it was still to come.
We are looking at doing a no-cost refinance to lower our interest rate on our house. We found an excellent guy to help us. The industry has taken such a huge beating that I think they are desperate for business. I tried the company who bought our loan, but they weren't helpful at all. We actually called in on a mailer and this guy has been fabulous. We will end up saving almost $60 a month, which is huge for us. We are trying to eliminate any unnecessary expenses where we can. If we can effectively do this I think we will be on the right track. If we can take a portion of that and spend it on food storage and put the rest into savings, then I think we will be establishing good habits and doing things we can teach our boys how to do as they get older.
We got our lawn aereated a week ago by the boy scouts. The timing was good because of all of the precipitation we received this past week. We seeded the areas where the previous owner's dog had decided to dig, and the grass has started to come up. We also noticed yesterday how the entire backyard is quickly becoming green. Hopefully with a week of sunshine it will really come into its own.
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
Our link to CR Trivia
So yesterday I got my marching orders. For the 2nd time since I transferred to the Building Group, the project I have been assigned to is having finance issues. Yippee. So in the mean time after this week I will be moving to the Area Office to help in the estimating department. It does have its upside, they don't start as early, I'm not on my feet quite as much, and I'll get some estimating experience until (if, when, should) the job starts.
We are finishing up a few more things at the CIS job this week and after Thursday I will be done here. I have a full day of training and reading with 3rd graders all day Friday, so Thursday afternoon will be the final hours for me here, for now. I will come back for about a week to do topping slabs but that won't happen for about 6 weeks.
We got box seats to the Rockies-Braves game last night. I was a little hesitant at first because the temperatures were low yesterday and there was a 60% chance of precipitation, but we decided to make a night of it. Turns out we spent as much or more time getting to and from the game as we did at the game itself. After scoring a quick run in the top of the 1st inning, both pitchers were very efficient. Until the bottom of the 8th inning, no one scored and most innings went quickly. There were a lot of 1st pitch groundballs. We got to see the future Hall of Famer Tom Glavine pitch a jewel of a game. Unfortunately for him his bullpen couldn't hold the lead. In the 8th, Tulo led off with a double, Helton struck out looking, and then Holliday sent the first pitch over the center field wall. It was awesome.
Luckily the game ended up being the shortest game in Coors Field history, 2 hours and 5 minutes. I think the boys thought it was still too long. They didn't take naps so they were ready to leave as soon as they ate their hotdogs. They always love the train ride there. The train was pretty empty so they jumped around like monkeys most of the way there. We had a fun time.
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Panoramic Picture of the Jobsite
Here is a picture of work I took at the end of the day today. My camera phone takes pretty good panoramic pictures. You can see the progress we've made since the last post. Since Monday we have put up all the wall starting to the right of the yellow trailer and working our way around. I hit 40 hours for the week this morning around 10am and they want to work Saturday. Ugh. It's still going well, just fast, plus we are a carpenter short.We'll have the perimeter wall done this week minus the access road and then we'll have the elevator walls to do and about 10 stoops around the building. I heard this week that I'll be here til April 11 and on to the next project. I'll be back to do 6 topping slabs and maybe the sitework.
One Big Buck
This buck was taken in Alberta, Canada I believe. I don't know a lot about it but it was shot by a friend of mine's-friend's son. So I am 3rd party. It's big.
Friday, March 21, 2008
Work, work, work
Here are some pictures of the new project I have been assigned to. We have spent the past 2 weeks working on the foundation. The first picture is the only one with me in it. I am on the left working on the building layout and establishing grid lines which control everything layout-wise related to the building. You can see that we have had phenomenal weather. The first 2 days of spring have been top notch.
Setting forms for the foundation. There is a 3 inch layer that goes down between the forms called void form that keeps the foundation up off of the soil. The clay soil here in Colorado is expansive and will push up on the foundation if this layer of "space" isn't allowed for. I don't have a picture of the void for on hand.
This surveyor is "as-builting" the piers that were drilled down to the bedrock. You can see what he is standing on is cut out to allow the concrete to set up on the pier. The surface he is standing on is masonite which is covering the void form so the concrete doesn't crush it when we pour the concrete. You can also see that the rebar is starting to be tied here.
This is what the pour looks like. The 2 workers at the bottom are finishing it and the guy standing on the form is placing the concrete with the chute. The other two are vibrating the concrete to get all of the cracks filled in and eliminate bubbles. They also make sure it is poured to the correct elevation.
Here is the final product. It was backfilled a few days later so all you could see is the top. The black blanket on the right is covering the next day's pour to keep the heat in. 
This is what the foundation looks like after it is backfilled. This building has this funky radius that we had to layout. It was kind of time-consuming, but turned out really nice. The ironworkers finished tying the iron and it is ready for the wall to be formed up.
After we poured the entire foundation of the building we poured the Elevator slab in the center which you can see in the upper right of the picture above in front of the green backhoe. It was 2'6" thick. Today we finished forming up the walls and poured 60 LF of concrete. On the ground are an anchor bolt template (by the bucket) and a couple embed templates. If you look next to the paint cans you can see how the embed templates are put in the form. When the other side of the form is put on we put the embeds in their specific designed location and get them within 1/8" of where they are supposed to be. This is why I spend so much time working on layout. Everything is built off of those grid lines I mentioned earlier.
Setting forms for the foundation. There is a 3 inch layer that goes down between the forms called void form that keeps the foundation up off of the soil. The clay soil here in Colorado is expansive and will push up on the foundation if this layer of "space" isn't allowed for. I don't have a picture of the void for on hand.This surveyor is "as-builting" the piers that were drilled down to the bedrock. You can see what he is standing on is cut out to allow the concrete to set up on the pier. The surface he is standing on is masonite which is covering the void form so the concrete doesn't crush it when we pour the concrete. You can also see that the rebar is starting to be tied here.This is what the pour looks like. The 2 workers at the bottom are finishing it and the guy standing on the form is placing the concrete with the chute. The other two are vibrating the concrete to get all of the cracks filled in and eliminate bubbles. They also make sure it is poured to the correct elevation.
Here is the final product. It was backfilled a few days later so all you could see is the top. The black blanket on the right is covering the next day's pour to keep the heat in. This is what the foundation looks like after it is backfilled. This building has this funky radius that we had to layout. It was kind of time-consuming, but turned out really nice. The ironworkers finished tying the iron and it is ready for the wall to be formed up.After we poured the entire foundation of the building we poured the Elevator slab in the center which you can see in the upper right of the picture above in front of the green backhoe. It was 2'6" thick. Today we finished forming up the walls and poured 60 LF of concrete. On the ground are an anchor bolt template (by the bucket) and a couple embed templates. If you look next to the paint cans you can see how the embed templates are put in the form. When the other side of the form is put on we put the embeds in their specific designed location and get them within 1/8" of where they are supposed to be. This is why I spend so much time working on layout. Everything is built off of those grid lines I mentioned earlier. I am enjoying the project. My day is non-stop start to finish. I am on my feet all day so I have been exhausted at the end of every day. Janna probably wishes I wasn't so tired. I fall asleep on the couch almost every night, sometimes around 7:30. Good for me, not for her.
Sunday, March 9, 2008
What's In A Name?
Very Interesting
Lucas
There are 47,058 people in the U.S. with the first name Lucas.
Statistically the 818th most popular first name.
More than 99.9 percent of people with the first name Lucas are male.
Lee
There are 667,915 people in the U.S. with the last name Lee.
Statistically the 24th most popular last name.
Lucas Lee
There are 104 people in the U.S. named Lucas Lee.
Lucas
There are 47,058 people in the U.S. with the first name Lucas.
Statistically the 818th most popular first name.
More than 99.9 percent of people with the first name Lucas are male.
Lee
There are 667,915 people in the U.S. with the last name Lee.
Statistically the 24th most popular last name.
Lucas Lee
There are 104 people in the U.S. named Lucas Lee.
Saturday, March 8, 2008
New Project
Monday I started on a new project. It is a Federal Gov't building, 45,000 SF, 3 stories. Currently we have the core and shell contract and are awaiting the Tenant Finishes contract.
We had been waiting for the building permit to come through and it finally did while we were in Omaha. Last Friday Brice and I packed up our things and moved them over to the job trailer. Monday I took some time to move my stuff into my new desk and set up my computer, then had to go back to the old site and get a few things we left. Once I got back the work began.
I spent about a day and a half putting together Excel Spreadsheets to help me track the work we do related to Concrete. I will be able to do a lot more outdoor things now that those are put together. Wednesday I spent the day putting together work plans and quantities for my General Foreman, Brice, to simplify his life when we start forming the footing. Thursday was a joyous day of going over rebar drawings and verifying the engineer's work. Funny they have a novice check the pro's work, but I actually did catch a couple of things. That took ALL DAY.
Yesterday was the payoff though. I was able to be outside ALL DAY. After a week of staying busy (rare) I was able to stay busy nonstop. My super, John, does a good job of telling me what he needs me to do, what his expectations are for me, and how to most effectively and efficiently go about my work. He started as a field engineer and is one of the best teaching Superintendent's we have I have been told. So I am trying to learn as much as I can from him.
I started learning how to use the Leica Total Station survey equipment. I checked all of the layout the Subcontracted Survey Company did and make sure their layout hadn't been altered or destroyed. I also laid out the grid lines on the Drilled Piers and we laid out the outside edge of our forms. I did a lot more after that, checking my work in different ways, but for the most part you probably won't follow me, so I won't go into detail. We got a lot done today and I learned a lot, which, is most important right now. I stayed later that most do on Friday but was able to get some extra work done that will get us going faster on Monday. If we are going to make any money on the concrete (because we are self-performing the work) I have to stay ahead of the work and have the layout ready to go. I'll post some pictures next week from work.
We had been waiting for the building permit to come through and it finally did while we were in Omaha. Last Friday Brice and I packed up our things and moved them over to the job trailer. Monday I took some time to move my stuff into my new desk and set up my computer, then had to go back to the old site and get a few things we left. Once I got back the work began.
I spent about a day and a half putting together Excel Spreadsheets to help me track the work we do related to Concrete. I will be able to do a lot more outdoor things now that those are put together. Wednesday I spent the day putting together work plans and quantities for my General Foreman, Brice, to simplify his life when we start forming the footing. Thursday was a joyous day of going over rebar drawings and verifying the engineer's work. Funny they have a novice check the pro's work, but I actually did catch a couple of things. That took ALL DAY.
Yesterday was the payoff though. I was able to be outside ALL DAY. After a week of staying busy (rare) I was able to stay busy nonstop. My super, John, does a good job of telling me what he needs me to do, what his expectations are for me, and how to most effectively and efficiently go about my work. He started as a field engineer and is one of the best teaching Superintendent's we have I have been told. So I am trying to learn as much as I can from him.
I started learning how to use the Leica Total Station survey equipment. I checked all of the layout the Subcontracted Survey Company did and make sure their layout hadn't been altered or destroyed. I also laid out the grid lines on the Drilled Piers and we laid out the outside edge of our forms. I did a lot more after that, checking my work in different ways, but for the most part you probably won't follow me, so I won't go into detail. We got a lot done today and I learned a lot, which, is most important right now. I stayed later that most do on Friday but was able to get some extra work done that will get us going faster on Monday. If we are going to make any money on the concrete (because we are self-performing the work) I have to stay ahead of the work and have the layout ready to go. I'll post some pictures next week from work.
Monday, February 25, 2008
Friday, February 8, 2008
Farewell Mitt
Mitt Romney suspended his campaign yesterday, effectively putting McCain as the GOP nominee. A friend of mine sent me this article from the Wall Street Journal about the influence of Romney's campaign on the church.
I think that despite the negativity it will be good in the long run. Any press, good or bad, sparks interest. One of my favorite scriptures, "by their fruits ye shall know them" comes to mind. If people truly want to know about it, they will come to the source and see the good. Any church that spends the money we do on helping others with humanitarian efforts alone cannot be bad.
I am discouraged as an American that there are no longer any quality candidates with a real shot at becoming President. While I did not like the negativity that came with his campaign against my religion, I did like the fact that he was a candidate with strong moral convictions and a financial genious who could do wonders for our declining economy. If McCain has any brains at all, he will bring Mitt on as his VP. McCain's specialty will be the war, Mitt's the economy. We are a country of specialization, why not in the White House? Now the primary reason for me to vote for McCain will be to keep the future Supreme Court Justices Conservative.
Sunday, February 3, 2008
Learning
Choices-things I wish I knew back then
I don't know if I really ever understood the impact that a single choice would have on my life. A single choice like choosing to not get into a car, choosing to not drink something, choosing to go to school at a certain place, or choosing to go to the gym; these are all choices I've had to make and as a result, live with the consequences whether they be good or bad.
There are choices I've made that I can look back at and know that they have greatly impacted my life. I call these active choices. There are other choices that I make based upon lifestyle, or choices that I continue to make based upon my youth or the way I was raised. I call these passive choices because the choice was made previously and so the choice really has already been made.
Choosing to be Healthy
One choice I made when I was young was to keep my body clean. I would have control over what I put in my mouth and what chemicals I allowed to enter my body. I had heroes, people I looked up to that were great examples to me. They weren't superstars on a national or global level per se with the exception of one basketball star, but they were guys older than me who set great examples. Guys like Bobby Griffitts and Caleb Zimmerman were who I tried to pattern my life after. I faced the realization that I might never be the athletes they were, but I could treat my body in such a way that I could perform to the best of my ability whenever, wherever.
Choosing to live this way allowed me to do many things. First of all, my head was always clear. I was able to do well in school without having to overexert myself. I never had to worry about being hung over or not be able to drive myself home. My parents were not worried that I was in a bad place and that gave me greater freedom as a teenager. They allowed me to do more things and to have fewer restrictions.
As a person in their late 20's I still see the effects of this. One of the biggest things are the ability to control ones diet and how that affects everything from sleep to weight to self control in other aspects of life. Another is the consumption of alcohol. I work in an industry where alcohol is at nearly every social event. I saw the company I worked for in one night spend $30,000 alone on alcohol. That was for a group of about 400 drinkers. On top of that they had to provide accomodations for everyone present so there was another $300+ per room. Made for an expensive night. What is fun to some is not for others. I don't mind those who choose to drink and I don't judge them for it. Most of my closest friends that I work with drink their fair share and that is fine, I don't care. I just know that it has worked for me to choose to stay clean. I've never had a DUI or lost my license. I've never had to wake up hung over. My liver is clean.
Dating pressures
The pressure we put on ourselves and others as a social group is immense. Within the church we know that one of the things that we need to do in our progression is to get married. As males we serve the mission, work hard hopefully, and the last thing we are told by our mission presidents to go home and get to finding that special someone. Often we do this without finding ourselves first. The mission is good for finding ourselves spiritually and enhancing our knowledge of the gospel, but they don't always do a lot for finding our careers and what we will do for work the rest of our lives. We may find things we are good at or enjoy doing, but when your focus is on serving, you really don't know what you want to do. You may want to be a doctor, an engineer, or a lawyer, but realistically do we really "know" this? How much experience does the average missionary have in any of these fields, unless their dad did it and he let us hang around the office for hours on end just to learn and study. I don't think this is realistic.
When missionaries come home there is no reason they cannot take some "me" time. There is no hurry to make perhaps the single most important choice that will affect their ETERNITY. Think about the weight of that decision. Have you ever thought about what that choice will bring in your life? I don't know if I ever stopped to really try and understand the impact that it would have on my life. Of course looking back I can now see that, but at the time I did not and I wish that I would have. Everything is affected in your life by the choice you make in picking a spouse.
As a LDS culture we do not live together before getting married, nor do I encourage it. I do however encourage dating for a long period of time if you think that this might be a person you could marry. You need to see each other in as many situations as possible in order to see how that person will respond and know if that is something you can live with. What you don't realize when you are twitterpated is that you have some heavy blinders on. You see the good in this person who you are convinced is perfect in every way. This is good, you should see the good in this person, however you should also be able to step back and see this person objectively and recognize the different qualities, strengths, and weaknesses in them and know if this is what you are looking for.
I do not want you to think that I am saying to put them under a microscope, but I am saying that because of the weight of this decision you need to make this choice with a clear and rational mind.
It's OK to be different
As a teenager and as I've grown older, I have come to realize that it is okay to be different. So many of my peers just wanted to fit in. They wanted to be in the cool crowd, have the cool friends. They wanted acceptance at the expense of whatever it took to be in that crowd. Unfortunately I still see it. I see coworkers who are willing to do things they probably wouldn't, just to be liked.
I was lucky. I have been blessed with a different body. I was 6'5" by the time I was a sophomore in high school. I have flaming red hair. I have a pretty loud personality. I like to talk to people and I love to meet new people and make friends fairly quickly. I get this from my dad and his dad. Grandpa knows everyone, and everyone seems to know Grandpa. My dad can make friends with just about anyone. It is a great blessing for them, and also a great blessing for me. I love knowing I stand out in crowds. It has allowed me to be someone for people to look to, and I have felt that keenly at times. I especially feel it now, as a father, as a coach to the young men's basketball team, and as a newly called Cub Scout Leader.
Trust your Feelings Luke
Growing up with the first name Luke, of course I heard all of the Star Wars lines. One that still sticks with me is "trust your feelings Luke." In a world where everyone wants to be politically correct, we have been blessed with the knowledge that there is right and wrong. Every person born on this earth has something inside of them that speaks to their mind and lets them know good and bad. I have felt that feeling many times. I can't say I have always listened to it, but I know it is there and it is a feeling I can trust. I know that when I make mistakes I need to learn from them and move on. I cannot change the past, but I can feel bad for what I have done, and choose to be better tomorrow and not make the same mistake again.
Dwelling on the mistakes you have made will get you nowhere unless you allow it to motivate you to be better. A forgetful memory when bad things happen will be your best friend. You must be able to forgive yourself of the things you have done wrong and forget them. This is easier said than done, but it is possible. Sometimes talking about it with a trusted person just to get it off of your chest can be a huge relief. Talking about it with a church leader can also help and in some cases might be the only way to feel fully forgiven. You need to know what works for you.
I don't know if I really ever understood the impact that a single choice would have on my life. A single choice like choosing to not get into a car, choosing to not drink something, choosing to go to school at a certain place, or choosing to go to the gym; these are all choices I've had to make and as a result, live with the consequences whether they be good or bad.
There are choices I've made that I can look back at and know that they have greatly impacted my life. I call these active choices. There are other choices that I make based upon lifestyle, or choices that I continue to make based upon my youth or the way I was raised. I call these passive choices because the choice was made previously and so the choice really has already been made.
Choosing to be Healthy
One choice I made when I was young was to keep my body clean. I would have control over what I put in my mouth and what chemicals I allowed to enter my body. I had heroes, people I looked up to that were great examples to me. They weren't superstars on a national or global level per se with the exception of one basketball star, but they were guys older than me who set great examples. Guys like Bobby Griffitts and Caleb Zimmerman were who I tried to pattern my life after. I faced the realization that I might never be the athletes they were, but I could treat my body in such a way that I could perform to the best of my ability whenever, wherever.
Choosing to live this way allowed me to do many things. First of all, my head was always clear. I was able to do well in school without having to overexert myself. I never had to worry about being hung over or not be able to drive myself home. My parents were not worried that I was in a bad place and that gave me greater freedom as a teenager. They allowed me to do more things and to have fewer restrictions.
As a person in their late 20's I still see the effects of this. One of the biggest things are the ability to control ones diet and how that affects everything from sleep to weight to self control in other aspects of life. Another is the consumption of alcohol. I work in an industry where alcohol is at nearly every social event. I saw the company I worked for in one night spend $30,000 alone on alcohol. That was for a group of about 400 drinkers. On top of that they had to provide accomodations for everyone present so there was another $300+ per room. Made for an expensive night. What is fun to some is not for others. I don't mind those who choose to drink and I don't judge them for it. Most of my closest friends that I work with drink their fair share and that is fine, I don't care. I just know that it has worked for me to choose to stay clean. I've never had a DUI or lost my license. I've never had to wake up hung over. My liver is clean.
Dating pressures
The pressure we put on ourselves and others as a social group is immense. Within the church we know that one of the things that we need to do in our progression is to get married. As males we serve the mission, work hard hopefully, and the last thing we are told by our mission presidents to go home and get to finding that special someone. Often we do this without finding ourselves first. The mission is good for finding ourselves spiritually and enhancing our knowledge of the gospel, but they don't always do a lot for finding our careers and what we will do for work the rest of our lives. We may find things we are good at or enjoy doing, but when your focus is on serving, you really don't know what you want to do. You may want to be a doctor, an engineer, or a lawyer, but realistically do we really "know" this? How much experience does the average missionary have in any of these fields, unless their dad did it and he let us hang around the office for hours on end just to learn and study. I don't think this is realistic.
When missionaries come home there is no reason they cannot take some "me" time. There is no hurry to make perhaps the single most important choice that will affect their ETERNITY. Think about the weight of that decision. Have you ever thought about what that choice will bring in your life? I don't know if I ever stopped to really try and understand the impact that it would have on my life. Of course looking back I can now see that, but at the time I did not and I wish that I would have. Everything is affected in your life by the choice you make in picking a spouse.
As a LDS culture we do not live together before getting married, nor do I encourage it. I do however encourage dating for a long period of time if you think that this might be a person you could marry. You need to see each other in as many situations as possible in order to see how that person will respond and know if that is something you can live with. What you don't realize when you are twitterpated is that you have some heavy blinders on. You see the good in this person who you are convinced is perfect in every way. This is good, you should see the good in this person, however you should also be able to step back and see this person objectively and recognize the different qualities, strengths, and weaknesses in them and know if this is what you are looking for.
I do not want you to think that I am saying to put them under a microscope, but I am saying that because of the weight of this decision you need to make this choice with a clear and rational mind.
It's OK to be different
As a teenager and as I've grown older, I have come to realize that it is okay to be different. So many of my peers just wanted to fit in. They wanted to be in the cool crowd, have the cool friends. They wanted acceptance at the expense of whatever it took to be in that crowd. Unfortunately I still see it. I see coworkers who are willing to do things they probably wouldn't, just to be liked.
I was lucky. I have been blessed with a different body. I was 6'5" by the time I was a sophomore in high school. I have flaming red hair. I have a pretty loud personality. I like to talk to people and I love to meet new people and make friends fairly quickly. I get this from my dad and his dad. Grandpa knows everyone, and everyone seems to know Grandpa. My dad can make friends with just about anyone. It is a great blessing for them, and also a great blessing for me. I love knowing I stand out in crowds. It has allowed me to be someone for people to look to, and I have felt that keenly at times. I especially feel it now, as a father, as a coach to the young men's basketball team, and as a newly called Cub Scout Leader.
Trust your Feelings Luke
Growing up with the first name Luke, of course I heard all of the Star Wars lines. One that still sticks with me is "trust your feelings Luke." In a world where everyone wants to be politically correct, we have been blessed with the knowledge that there is right and wrong. Every person born on this earth has something inside of them that speaks to their mind and lets them know good and bad. I have felt that feeling many times. I can't say I have always listened to it, but I know it is there and it is a feeling I can trust. I know that when I make mistakes I need to learn from them and move on. I cannot change the past, but I can feel bad for what I have done, and choose to be better tomorrow and not make the same mistake again.
Dwelling on the mistakes you have made will get you nowhere unless you allow it to motivate you to be better. A forgetful memory when bad things happen will be your best friend. You must be able to forgive yourself of the things you have done wrong and forget them. This is easier said than done, but it is possible. Sometimes talking about it with a trusted person just to get it off of your chest can be a huge relief. Talking about it with a church leader can also help and in some cases might be the only way to feel fully forgiven. You need to know what works for you.
Thursday, January 31, 2008
Milestones
The Honda rolled over 170,000 miles last night. It had 49,000 miles on it when I met Janna. That got me thinking about my dad, today is his 55th birthday. He's gotta be rolling somewhere around 250,000 miles about now on that body of his. Happy Birthday DAD.
Friday, January 18, 2008
Patience
If there is one thing I need to have more of, it is patience. Why this is on the brain, I don't know if I can pinpoint the single reason, but I can think of a few reasons.
Perhaps this is why I have been called to be the coach of the 14-18 year olds at church. There are a few of them that have very little-if any experience. Some of them have a lot of experience and are fun to watch, but some of them cannot hit even the backboard with the ball if they are standing in front of it. So between trying to teach these guys the simple, basic skills, and trying to get them to come to practice it could get a little frustrating.
I was given another calling this week to serve as, and I hope I get this right, the Wolf Cubscout Assistant Den Leader. It is also a Tuesday night calling but will continue obviously when the basketball has ended. At this point I don't know my responsibilities and they have not called the actual Leader for whom I will be an assistant. It makes me wish Stone was old enough to be in it so I could help him.
Between these callings, moving to a new project, 3 sons, and a wife one would think I get plenty of practice in learning how to be patient. I think the patience I am seeking is on a larger scale however. It is the patience of greater things. Patience in work. Patience with myself. Patience with others. Patience with experience. Patience in life.
If anyone reading this has ever had to deal with issues relating to Attention Deficit Disorder or ADD, then you know life can be a lot harder for some people than others. The ironic thing is that there is not a deficit of Energy, there is actually too much energy, too many things going on in our heads.
These next few paragraphs I pulled from a website called Living with ADD. Its Home page does a good job explaining in simple English how ADD can affect a person who has it.
What is A.D.D.?
ADD Stands for Attention Deficit Disorder This is one of the only times that I will refer to ADD as Attention Deficit Disorder. Those of us that are ADD know that attention is only one part of being ADD. Plus we really don't have an attention deficit. In fact we actually have an over abundance of attention. It's just hard for us to pay attention to only one thing at a time. If that one thing is boring or meaningless to us, it is next to impossible to pay attention to it...
Positive ADD Traits
Creativity: People with ADD are very creative. Yes, You are creative too. Living in a non-ADD world may have stifled your creativity though. When we as ADD people have no outlet for creativity that is when problems start to escalate...
Sensitivity: People with ADD are highly sensitive. Many ADD people appear to be the exact opposite though. This may be because society does not want us to show our feelings. This is especially hard for males. We wonder why little boys with ADD/ADHD are fighting a lot. If they cry like they feel like doing they may be told that crying is for babies and to "suck it up"...
Intuition: People with ADD are very intuitive. We rely a lot on our gut feelings. For some reason our society does not to seem to value intuition very highly. Society wants us to prove everything. Sometimes it's very hard for people with ADD to find proof for what they know in their gut is 100% correct...
Intelligence: People with ADD are usually very intelligent. Sometimes tests used by the non-ADD world do not always show that. Plus when people with ADD are not interested in something we don't do very well and the tests become worthless...
The Negative parts of ADD
Misunderstanding: Many children and adults with ADD often feel misunderstood. Much of this has to do with non-ADD people not understanding ADD. Many people don't believe ADD exists at all. There are also many others that label ADD as a disability or disorder. Yes, we as people with ADD may think differently than non-ADD people, but that really does not make us disabled..
Focusing: People with ADD have trouble focusing on one thing at time. The non-ADD world sees this as a problem. It can in fact be a problem when an a person with ADD is reading a book that really doesn't interest him or her. Many of us really like the fact that were are able to do 5 things at once. While many non-ADD people can't "walk and chew gum at the same time". People with ADD can do that and so much more...
Organizing: Some people with ADD appear to be very disorganized. Many times that is just an outside appearance. We may not have things in neat files or everything in a spot. Yet, we can usually locate things that are important to us. It's just that since so many things are not important to us at every moment things do get misplaced. For instance when the phone rings it's not import to us at that moment where we put our cars keys. So, the keys usually get thrown down any where...
Time: Time can be an enemy to people with ADD. It's almost as if it's a foreign concept to us. This can lead to many problems in the non-ADD world. Bills don't get paid on time, assignments aren't handed in, we are late for appointments. Time just doesn't make sense to us at times...
Completing Tasks: This may be one of the largest problems for children and adults with ADD. The problems above make it hard for us to complete things. Also, many people with ADD don't ever see any things as completely finished. We almost always have something more to add. It's hard for us to figure our what is acceptable as finished to the non-ADD world when nothing is really ever finished to us...
This is a pretty good rundown of my life and my thoughts. There are a few things that I might not agree with or a couple of the negatives that actually I have turned into strengths such as time. If not for time and deadlines, I probably would not get anything done, e.g. our bathroom tile. I have everything done in there but the tile. I have to give myself real deadlines or if it stays an open-ended project it may never finish. In work and school I would write down my deadlines so I could visually see them and then make time to complete what needed to be done and they always got done. The biggest exception to this was law school. I suppose that if I truly loved it and wanted to be there, it would have been much easier to deal with, but after only a month of it I knew in my mind that it wasn't going to work. I tried to make it work for a year and that round peg/square hole thing came true.
The good thing about it was that this was when I actually sought treatment for the way I was struggling with school, and I'm not talking about school, but things like my inability to sit for more than a couple of minutes at a time and be able to focus on the reading I had to do. I did fine in class and could follow the conversation and the flow, but when it came down to me and stuff outside of the classes, I couldn't do it. I wanted to beat my self up, pull my hair out, find another way, anything but what I had to do. If you don't have it, most of this probably makes no sense to you. You just do it. I couldn't. I wasn't choosing not to, I was trying. I could physically not do it, just as I can not physically pull a full grown pine tree out of the ground.
Lucky for me 3 things happened.
First, I found out by going to the Student Services that I have Adult ADD. I was able to get some help for my anxiety it was causing. I was able to take a step back from what I was doing and evaluate whether or not it was what I wanted. Obviously I decided it wasn't worth the self-destruction it was causing. I didn't like myself. Physically I was breaking down. I had never had a cavity in my life and after a visit to the dentist (my dad) the x-rays showed that my teeth were starting to break down. Not good.
Second, I had talked to Janna before we ever started law school and told her that if I didn't like it then I couldn't be afraid to walk away. She concurred and so when it really came down to it I was able to reflect on that conversation and know I had her support. I was past the point of worrying about extended family and what it meant to them.
Third, I had a conversation with a neighbor about the Construction Management program at Boise State and was able to remember that on a road trip while we were eating lunch in Boise. I was able to visit the school and learn about the program. They welcomed me with open arms
In learning about my ADD, what I was able to do most importantly was learn how I function and how I learn. Perhaps going back to get a 2nd undergrad was a step down on the difficulty of classes, but really it was a step over as far as the type of material I was having to learn. It went from all reading to math, engineering, and reading about much more interesting things that I could more easily relate to. Calculus is not harder than Torts, just much more straightforward.
I took many different types of classes and excelled at nearly all of them. I made the Dean's List every semester with high honors and honors. The biggest difference, I liked it.
Now that I am in a field I enjoy I have to work hard not to get too comfortable. Sometimes I feel like I am underutilized and undervalued and maybe I could find something better. Recently I had my annual evaluation which was really a 6 month evaluation because I transferred over in July. I let him know that I expect more responsibility and opportunities fo be offerred or I will go look for it. I am a pretty ambitious guy normally, it just sucks that at this job I have had to constantly ask for things to do to help instead of be given responsibilities.
This new job I have been assigned to will bring with it the opportunity to be fully integrated and invested and do a little flying by the seat of my pants as I learn a lot of new things by necessity. Again, it comes back to patience. I have to realize learning some things will take time and I can't know it all at once. If that were the case I would have already started my own company.
Perhaps this is why I have been called to be the coach of the 14-18 year olds at church. There are a few of them that have very little-if any experience. Some of them have a lot of experience and are fun to watch, but some of them cannot hit even the backboard with the ball if they are standing in front of it. So between trying to teach these guys the simple, basic skills, and trying to get them to come to practice it could get a little frustrating.
I was given another calling this week to serve as, and I hope I get this right, the Wolf Cubscout Assistant Den Leader. It is also a Tuesday night calling but will continue obviously when the basketball has ended. At this point I don't know my responsibilities and they have not called the actual Leader for whom I will be an assistant. It makes me wish Stone was old enough to be in it so I could help him.
Between these callings, moving to a new project, 3 sons, and a wife one would think I get plenty of practice in learning how to be patient. I think the patience I am seeking is on a larger scale however. It is the patience of greater things. Patience in work. Patience with myself. Patience with others. Patience with experience. Patience in life.
If anyone reading this has ever had to deal with issues relating to Attention Deficit Disorder or ADD, then you know life can be a lot harder for some people than others. The ironic thing is that there is not a deficit of Energy, there is actually too much energy, too many things going on in our heads.
These next few paragraphs I pulled from a website called Living with ADD. Its Home page does a good job explaining in simple English how ADD can affect a person who has it.
What is A.D.D.?
ADD Stands for Attention Deficit Disorder This is one of the only times that I will refer to ADD as Attention Deficit Disorder. Those of us that are ADD know that attention is only one part of being ADD. Plus we really don't have an attention deficit. In fact we actually have an over abundance of attention. It's just hard for us to pay attention to only one thing at a time. If that one thing is boring or meaningless to us, it is next to impossible to pay attention to it...
Positive ADD Traits
Creativity: People with ADD are very creative. Yes, You are creative too. Living in a non-ADD world may have stifled your creativity though. When we as ADD people have no outlet for creativity that is when problems start to escalate...
Sensitivity: People with ADD are highly sensitive. Many ADD people appear to be the exact opposite though. This may be because society does not want us to show our feelings. This is especially hard for males. We wonder why little boys with ADD/ADHD are fighting a lot. If they cry like they feel like doing they may be told that crying is for babies and to "suck it up"...
Intuition: People with ADD are very intuitive. We rely a lot on our gut feelings. For some reason our society does not to seem to value intuition very highly. Society wants us to prove everything. Sometimes it's very hard for people with ADD to find proof for what they know in their gut is 100% correct...
Intelligence: People with ADD are usually very intelligent. Sometimes tests used by the non-ADD world do not always show that. Plus when people with ADD are not interested in something we don't do very well and the tests become worthless...
The Negative parts of ADD
Misunderstanding: Many children and adults with ADD often feel misunderstood. Much of this has to do with non-ADD people not understanding ADD. Many people don't believe ADD exists at all. There are also many others that label ADD as a disability or disorder. Yes, we as people with ADD may think differently than non-ADD people, but that really does not make us disabled..
Focusing: People with ADD have trouble focusing on one thing at time. The non-ADD world sees this as a problem. It can in fact be a problem when an a person with ADD is reading a book that really doesn't interest him or her. Many of us really like the fact that were are able to do 5 things at once. While many non-ADD people can't "walk and chew gum at the same time". People with ADD can do that and so much more...
Organizing: Some people with ADD appear to be very disorganized. Many times that is just an outside appearance. We may not have things in neat files or everything in a spot. Yet, we can usually locate things that are important to us. It's just that since so many things are not important to us at every moment things do get misplaced. For instance when the phone rings it's not import to us at that moment where we put our cars keys. So, the keys usually get thrown down any where...
Time: Time can be an enemy to people with ADD. It's almost as if it's a foreign concept to us. This can lead to many problems in the non-ADD world. Bills don't get paid on time, assignments aren't handed in, we are late for appointments. Time just doesn't make sense to us at times...
Completing Tasks: This may be one of the largest problems for children and adults with ADD. The problems above make it hard for us to complete things. Also, many people with ADD don't ever see any things as completely finished. We almost always have something more to add. It's hard for us to figure our what is acceptable as finished to the non-ADD world when nothing is really ever finished to us...
This is a pretty good rundown of my life and my thoughts. There are a few things that I might not agree with or a couple of the negatives that actually I have turned into strengths such as time. If not for time and deadlines, I probably would not get anything done, e.g. our bathroom tile. I have everything done in there but the tile. I have to give myself real deadlines or if it stays an open-ended project it may never finish. In work and school I would write down my deadlines so I could visually see them and then make time to complete what needed to be done and they always got done. The biggest exception to this was law school. I suppose that if I truly loved it and wanted to be there, it would have been much easier to deal with, but after only a month of it I knew in my mind that it wasn't going to work. I tried to make it work for a year and that round peg/square hole thing came true.
The good thing about it was that this was when I actually sought treatment for the way I was struggling with school, and I'm not talking about school, but things like my inability to sit for more than a couple of minutes at a time and be able to focus on the reading I had to do. I did fine in class and could follow the conversation and the flow, but when it came down to me and stuff outside of the classes, I couldn't do it. I wanted to beat my self up, pull my hair out, find another way, anything but what I had to do. If you don't have it, most of this probably makes no sense to you. You just do it. I couldn't. I wasn't choosing not to, I was trying. I could physically not do it, just as I can not physically pull a full grown pine tree out of the ground.
Lucky for me 3 things happened.
First, I found out by going to the Student Services that I have Adult ADD. I was able to get some help for my anxiety it was causing. I was able to take a step back from what I was doing and evaluate whether or not it was what I wanted. Obviously I decided it wasn't worth the self-destruction it was causing. I didn't like myself. Physically I was breaking down. I had never had a cavity in my life and after a visit to the dentist (my dad) the x-rays showed that my teeth were starting to break down. Not good.
Second, I had talked to Janna before we ever started law school and told her that if I didn't like it then I couldn't be afraid to walk away. She concurred and so when it really came down to it I was able to reflect on that conversation and know I had her support. I was past the point of worrying about extended family and what it meant to them.
Third, I had a conversation with a neighbor about the Construction Management program at Boise State and was able to remember that on a road trip while we were eating lunch in Boise. I was able to visit the school and learn about the program. They welcomed me with open arms
In learning about my ADD, what I was able to do most importantly was learn how I function and how I learn. Perhaps going back to get a 2nd undergrad was a step down on the difficulty of classes, but really it was a step over as far as the type of material I was having to learn. It went from all reading to math, engineering, and reading about much more interesting things that I could more easily relate to. Calculus is not harder than Torts, just much more straightforward.
I took many different types of classes and excelled at nearly all of them. I made the Dean's List every semester with high honors and honors. The biggest difference, I liked it.
Now that I am in a field I enjoy I have to work hard not to get too comfortable. Sometimes I feel like I am underutilized and undervalued and maybe I could find something better. Recently I had my annual evaluation which was really a 6 month evaluation because I transferred over in July. I let him know that I expect more responsibility and opportunities fo be offerred or I will go look for it. I am a pretty ambitious guy normally, it just sucks that at this job I have had to constantly ask for things to do to help instead of be given responsibilities.
This new job I have been assigned to will bring with it the opportunity to be fully integrated and invested and do a little flying by the seat of my pants as I learn a lot of new things by necessity. Again, it comes back to patience. I have to realize learning some things will take time and I can't know it all at once. If that were the case I would have already started my own company.
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
A wedding, a drive, a thought
I took a trip to Salt Lake this past weekend. It was kind of an emotional roller coaster. The drive there took about 12 hours to go 580 miles due to snow. It took almost 3 hours just to get out of Colorado. Coming back was worse. I was driving through snow out of SLC up to Park City, then icy roads to Evanston. After Evanston there were several huge wrecks and traffic stopped for about an hour. A semi had jackknifed pretty bad among several other ice-caused wrecks in a 1/4 mile span. I was able to get through that and drive for 3 hours in good weather.
The snow was wind-blown and got pretty bad at times, but the Honda did well being a front-wheeled drive vehicle with studded snow tires. Then after going through Rawlins, the Freeway shut down at Sinclair. No kidding, bad day. It was our 7th anniversary and I was busting my balls to get back, but at this point I was stuck. I tried to backtrack and drop down into Colorado, but the roads in Colorado were worse off and closed at several locations. So at this point I have to face the music.
I had already spent 2 hours at a nasty truck stop in Sinclair where there was no ventilation and everyone, even the waitress, was smoking cigarettes. I don't get nauseated very easy, but after sitting in there waiting for my burger for 45 minutes, I was ready to puke. I ended up parking at the Flying J near Rawlins and sleeping in the car all night. I was prepared for the worst and had packed my old United Airlines cold suit. It is very warm. I don't recommend sleeping on the drivers side though next time. It just makes it easier to start the car. I had to call work and tell them I was stuck. They were OK with it, just told me to be safe.
The road finally opened up the next morning as I was finishing up my breakfast buffet, around 7:30am. I ended up getting home around lunchtime.
Lincoln MonumentThe wedding was nice. It was small and mostly family, only me and another friend were invited outside of the bloodline. Kimmee, Robb's wife, is a culinary master and made that cake. I was able to stay at Robb's place and have some time to talk to him before it got too busy. He was really glad that I made the trip and expressed his appreciation a couple of different times. That made it worth it despite the long journey there and back.
I was able to see several other friends and catch up with them. One of them is in the middle of a divorce. He walked in on his wife doing the deed in his own house and in his own bed. What a crappy way to find out. He has had a rough go for a few months but is doing better. This conversation with him made me think a lot about communication and how much we, as humans, suck at it. Even those who talk a lot aren't the best, often they are the worst listeners.I think this is why it is important to carefully evaluate a relationship before you make any lasting commitments. You need to be able to connect on more than one level. As horny 21 year olds coming off of our missions, we tend to think with one thing on the brain and forget that once things settle and the honeymoon is over, you actually have to live together and talk and share lives. Having kids helps, you have a common goal and something to work on, it is usually at this point though where you start to forget that you have to have priorities. The first one should be your spouse, regardless of the kids, money, work, church, etc. I think it is too easy to let it get distorted and the kids seem to slide into the #1 spot w/o us realizing it.
We need to speak each others Primary Love Language and if it is foreign to us we have to learn it so that we can fill the other's tank. I think at times we just want our tank filled and forget that it goes both ways. We have to be willing to give and receive. However, we cannot just be giving all of the time and not have our own tanks filled. I have realized more than ever that everyone has needs and they are going to get them filled somewhere. They will hopefully go to their spouse, or the person that should be filling those needs, but if that doesn't happen, they WILL find it somewhere. Some find it in hobbies, some in pornography, some in other people, whatever the case may be, they WILL find it. Some heavy stuff to think about for sure.
In the church we tend to think that once we get married in the temple and reach that life long goal, it is smooth sailing. But should that really be our goal at that time? Is it really OUR goal at that time? Is it just expectations we are trying to live up to? OUR expectations? OUR parents? the church's? I think they are worthy goals, absolutely, but we should be focusing on what is best for us and our long term interests. If we are ready and have thoroughly thought these things, maybe it is the right decision.
The pressures that we in the LDS community, put on ourselves and each other, are enormous. When I think of the pressure I faced at BYU coming off of my mission, wow. I was supposed to pick a career, something to do for the rest of my life, every day, and like it. Riiiiiiiiiiight. We know how that went. I finally just decided a few years ago what to do. Sometimes I look at other things and want to do other stuff. I think it is the ADD in me. I like the thought of doing a lot of things and not having to stay in one place for too long. I digress. So there is the pressure of choosing a career at a point when one has little or no experience.
Then comes the pressure of marriage. It starts when/if the mission president puts the bug in your ear. I've heard some that say, "Elder, your next companion is out there and waiting for you." Or, "Elder the next step in your eternal progression is marriage, don't delay." Now I realize that it is part of our eternal progression, but aren't we told to pray "Thy will be done" and "In the Lord's time?" Seems like that should take care of the pressure, but it doesn't. Every phone call home you get mom, dad, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, asking who you are dating, when you are getting hitched. I know, I have and am one of those siblings & friends that have put this kind of pressure on others. I should be ashamed for it. TAKE YOUR TIME. There is no rush, no clock ticking.
My brothers Josh and Benji got it right. I'm not saying they didn't/don't feel the pressure because I know they did from my parents as much as anyone, but at least Josh took his time and got it right. Benji is 27 and still single, but he is don't what he enjoys and not putting any pressure on himself. Danny on the other hand, that boy is w/ a new girl every week. More power to him. He has a 3 track mind: church, school, and women. (in no particular order). Ahhh, those were the days.
There is definitely pressure.I remember hearing so many talks by Bishops and other leaders while at school, encouraging you to date and get married, then the next talk was about chastity and morality. What, chew the meat but don't swallow it? Morally it makes sense, but holy cow, more pressure. Find out what is supposed to last for eternity, but you can only window shop before picking out the right one. ETERNITY!!! That is a long time, meaning FOREVER. I still feel the pressure of that and I just hit my 7 year anniversary.
I have a lot more to say about this one but I will go for now. My mind is full of thoughts around social pressures, and not just about marriage, but also having children, how we act, why we do what we do.
This is not an optical illusion. People in pictures are actually this tall. This is why we make such a great doubles team in volleyball.
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